Plastic makes Perfect?

(This is written after I read a blog written by my homie FRQ regarding the standards women set when choosing a man........ )


YALL

They sold us that dream

With Barbie dolls and a Barbie house
It was white with 3 floors with nice pink and white furniture
An elevator
And lots of pots and pans in the kitchen for us to cook with

If your family could afford to buy you a red or pink Barbie corvette

you were really living a dream.

Barbie wasn’t single was she?
Nope

She had Ken

They even got “urban” and painted his skin brown so that
Pretty little brown girls like me could feel like

the dream life
was possible for us too

Ken had a brief case and Bermuda shorts for the many vacations
WE
Would take

Ken didn’t have a babies mama

Then THEY took you to church
Where your preacher could teach you how to better enhance
that life PERFECT life

By living Holy and
abiding by the Good word

The preacher became your idol..

How great would it be for your KEN to be a man of God
And assist you with living the good life

The preacher is perfect right?


They let you play dress up and draw in color pencil the color’s of your wedding

All you know is if you worked really hard
and looked really pretty

Your

Ken would come

They taught us from the time we were toddlers that we could be
JUST LIKE

BARBIE

They never say Ken wont be 6’4 with a perfect six pack

Or that he wont
have
Shiny white teeth and hair combed ever so gently to the right side of his perfectly shaped head

So..........


you try to turn
Fredrick
into
Ken

Fix him up, dress him in a suit and Bermuda shorts
But that’s not him…

He’s Fredrick

So you choose Michael

Take him to your Barbie house
And to your church to meet your pastor
So he can see an example in the flesh

And he kinda begins to
look like Ken

ON THE OUTSIDE

but......

Internally
he’s Michael


In the movies
The men are just like KEN

They have it together
Come when you call
Say sweet words, and shower you with thoughtful gestures

And undo everything they did wrong in the end

They sold us these dreams

Which is why we set our standards for our men the way we do
Nobody told us

Ken isn’t real

He’s plastic

and plastic

MELTS

They didn’t say Barbie houses are hard to maintain
And a house is

only a house

They didn’t teach us the definition of a
HOME

That’s why we work so hard to create a Malibu Barbie life
Because they taught us that from the time we children

Those fantasies and dreams we had as a child are no different
than manners

you forget them sometimes

but they are the basis of who you are

Little girls become women
Who try to make fantasies

REALITY


Its sad but some of us are so fixated on creating this fantasy life that we go in one of two directions

North- which is when you sit around and wait on Mr. Wonderful to come
Or
South- When you spend your entire existence trying to piece that lifestyle together

Yall can catch me going WEST


Sometimes we women have to understand that the definition of perfection
Doesn’t have SHIT
to do with Mattel
and its Barbie story

Perfection
is living with what works for us
If your idea of perfection is to be single
Then stand firm in that

If your idea of perfection is to have a man who is smart,
Kind
and spiritual who works hard don’t settle for anything other than that
Just know….

He may not be packaged
like KEN

I think the most beautiful thing about
Barbie

Was that she was admired by so many people

She could do anything

She was a lawyer, a doctor, teacher,

a mom


all while being beautiful

I’ll internalize that part of her
And create my own

PERFECT life

only it will be

By my design……..

Thats my $1,920 cents!

Love yall

Stay-Relevant

ShellZ